爸爸給兒子的信英文(2)
爸爸給兒子的信英文
爸爸給兒子的信英文范文二:
給我兒子的一封信
親愛的塞思,
你現(xiàn)在只有3歲,在這個(gè)人生階段,你還看不懂這封信,更難明白在這封信里我將要告訴你的東西。但是,我一直在思考很多關(guān)于在有你之前的生活,關(guān)于在我的生活中,只要我想起來我所學(xué)到的東西,關(guān)于作為一個(gè)父親,試圖為你將要在未來的年月所要面對(duì)的麻煩事所做的準(zhǔn)備。
你現(xiàn)在無法理解今天的這封信,但總有一天,當(dāng)你準(zhǔn)備好了,我希望你能在我跟你分享的東西里找到一些有智慧和價(jià)值的東西。
你還年輕,生活已經(jīng)不得不損耗你,不得不把失望,悲痛,孤獨(dú)和斗爭和痛苦帶到你行進(jìn)的路上。然而慶幸的是你尚未被長時(shí)間做著吃力不討好的工作和日常生活中的打擊所拖垮。
為此,要感謝上天,你正處于一個(gè)奇妙的人生階段,并且許多美好的人生階段還會(huì)來到,但是你想得到它們也要為此付出代價(jià)和承受風(fēng)險(xiǎn)。
我希望能通過分享我學(xué)會(huì)的經(jīng)驗(yàn)中,最好的一些內(nèi)容來幫助你走好人生之路。對(duì)于任何意見,就以半信半疑的態(tài)度來接受吧,因?yàn)閷?duì)我起作用的東西不一定就對(duì)你起作用。
生活可能是殘忍的
在你的生活中,你會(huì)遇到對(duì)你不好的人。他們會(huì)取笑你,因?yàn)槟愕牟煌?,或者沒有很好的理由,他們也會(huì)取笑你。他們可能會(huì)欺負(fù)你或傷害你。
對(duì)于這樣的人,除了學(xué)會(huì)如何應(yīng)付他們,就沒有什么你能做的了,學(xué)會(huì)選擇對(duì)你友好,真正關(guān)心你,讓你自我感覺良好的朋友。當(dāng)您找到這樣的朋友,把握他們,珍惜他們,花時(shí)間與他們相處,善待他們并且愛他們。
生活中,你會(huì)遇到成功代替失望的時(shí)候,生活不會(huì)總是按你想要的方式進(jìn)行。這只是你將不得不學(xué)會(huì)處理的另一件事。為了不讓這些事情放倒你,你要接受失望并且學(xué)會(huì)堅(jiān)持,盡管困難重重,也要堅(jiān)持去追求你自己的夢想。學(xué)會(huì)把悲觀變?yōu)闃酚^,那么在生活中,你就會(huì)做得更好。
你還將面臨你愛著的人給你帶來的心碎和遺棄你。我希望你不必面對(duì)太多這樣的事情,但如果它發(fā)生,同樣,你所能做的就是等待傷口愈合,并且繼續(xù)你的生活。讓這些痛苦成為你將事情變得更好的墊腳石,并且你要學(xué)會(huì)利用它們來使你變得更加強(qiáng)大。
但是,無論如何要對(duì)生活開放
是的,在漫長的人生旅途中,你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)殘酷和痛苦的事情...但不要因?yàn)槟切〇|西,讓你就對(duì)新事物關(guān)上了門,不要避開生活,不要躲藏起來或者自我隔離,要始終對(duì)新事物,新體驗(yàn)和新朋友開放。
你可能會(huì)心碎10次,但可能會(huì)在第11次愛情中找到最美妙的女子。如果你讓自己跟愛隔絕,你將會(huì)錯(cuò)過了那個(gè)女人,以及你生命中最快樂的時(shí)光。
你可能會(huì)被你遇到的人取笑,欺負(fù)和傷害...然后在經(jīng)歷遇到幾十個(gè)混球后,會(huì)找到一個(gè)真正的朋友。如果你和新認(rèn)識(shí)的人隔離,不對(duì)他們打開心扉,你會(huì)避免痛苦...但你也會(huì)失去一些不可思議的人,這些人會(huì)在你生命中最艱難的時(shí)候會(huì)陪著你,并且創(chuàng)造出你生命中最好的一些時(shí)光。
你會(huì)失敗很多次,但如果你允許自己停止嘗試,你將錯(cuò)過那種獲得成功時(shí)的感覺,那種感覺就是一旦你取得成績并達(dá)到新的高度時(shí)所得到的令人驚異的感覺。失敗是通往成功的一塊墊腳石。
生活并不是一場競爭比賽
在學(xué)校里,在大學(xué)里,在工作中,你將會(huì)遇到很多想超越你的人。他們會(huì)嘗試去擁有更好的車,更大的房子,更好的衣服,更酷的器具。對(duì)他們來說,生活就是一場競爭比賽-他們要做的比他們的同行者更好才能開心。
這里有一個(gè)秘密告訴你:生活不是一場競爭比賽。它是一個(gè)旅程。如果在旅程中,你總是試圖讓別人對(duì)自己印象深刻,超越別人,你其實(shí)是在浪費(fèi)你的旅程。相反,你應(yīng)學(xué)會(huì)享受旅程,使它成為一個(gè)幸福,不斷學(xué)習(xí),不斷改進(jìn),和愛的旅程。
不必為擁有更好的汽車,房子或物質(zhì)東西,甚至是更好的高薪工作煩惱。那些東西都無關(guān)緊,沒有它會(huì)使你更快樂些。因?yàn)楫?dāng)你獲得這些東西后,你就只想要得更多。相反,學(xué)會(huì)滿足-然后利用那些時(shí)間,就是你想掙錢來買那些東西所浪費(fèi)的時(shí)間,利用那些時(shí)間去做你愛做的事情。
找出你的酷愛并頑強(qiáng)地去追求它。不要滿足于能支付你的帳單的工作。生命太短暫,不要浪費(fèi)它在你所憎恨的工作上。
愛應(yīng)該是你的規(guī)則
如果有一個(gè)字應(yīng)該在你的生活中一起伴隨你,那么它應(yīng)該是:愛。這可能聽起來是老生常談,我知道...但相信我,在生活中再也沒有比它更好的規(guī)則。
有些人會(huì)靠成功的規(guī)則生存。他們的生活將是緊張,不愉快和膚淺的。
其他人則靠自私的規(guī)則生存-他們的需求高于其他人的需求。他們將寂寞地生活,并且也將是不開心的。
還有一些人是靠正義的規(guī)則所生活-他們試圖展示正確的途徑,并告誡任何不靠那條途徑生活的人。他們擔(dān)心他人,但是卻以消極的方式來進(jìn)行,最終只會(huì)和他們自己所擁有的正義一起生活,那會(huì)是一個(gè)可怕的伴侶。
按照愛的規(guī)則去過你的生活吧。用你的全身心去愛你的配偶,你的孩子,你的父母,朋友。給他們所需要的東西,并在他們面前只表示你的愛,沒有殘酷,沒有反對(duì),沒有冷漠,沒有失望。對(duì)他們開放你的心靈。
不僅愛你的親人,還有你的鄰居... ...你的同事,陌生人...人類范圍中你的兄弟姐妹們。向每個(gè)你遇見的人微笑,說善意的話語,做友好的手勢,伸出援助之手。
不僅愛鄰居和陌生人...還要愛你的敵人。那個(gè)對(duì)你最殘酷的人,那個(gè)一直對(duì)你不客氣的人...去愛他。因?yàn)樗且粋€(gè)在受折磨的靈魂,也最需要你的愛。
最重要的是,要愛你自己。在別人可能罵你時(shí),學(xué)會(huì)不要讓你自己對(duì)此感到非常艱難,不要認(rèn)為自己是丑陋,或者愚蠢,或者不值得愛...相反,要認(rèn)為你是一個(gè)奇妙的人兒,是值得擁有幸福和愛的人... ,學(xué)習(xí)去愛那個(gè)本來的你。
最后,我要讓你知道我愛你,并將永遠(yuǎn)愛你。你開始了一個(gè)奇怪的,可怕的,艱巨的,但最終是不可思議的奇妙旅程,只要可以,我將會(huì)在那兒等你。祝福你。
愛你的爸爸
A Letter to My Son
Dear Seth,
You’re only three years old, and at this point in your life you can't read, much less understand what I’m going to try to tell you in this letter. But I've been thinking a lot about the life that you have ahead of you, about my life so far as I reflect on what I've learned, and about my role as a dad in trying to prepare you for the trials that you will face in the coming years.
You won't be able to understand this letter today, but someday, when you're ready, I hope you will find some wisdom and value in what I share with you.
You are young, and life has yet to take its toll on you, to throw disappointments and heartaches and loneliness and struggles and pain into your path. You have not been worn down yet by long hours of thankless work, by the slings and arrows of everyday life.
For this, be thankful. You are at a wonderful stage of life. You have many wonderful stages of life still to come, but they are not without their costs and perils.
I hope to help you along your path by sharing some of the best of what I've learned. As with any advice, take it with a grain of salt. What works for me might not work for you.
Life Can Be Cruel
There will be people in your life who won't be very nice. They'll tease you because you're different, or for no good reason. They might try to bully you or hurt you.
There's not much you can do about these people except to learn to deal with them, and learn to choose friends who are kind to you, who actually care about you, who make you feel good about yourself. When you find friends like this, hold on to them, treasure them, spend time with them, be kind to them, love them.
There will be times when you are met with disappointment instead of success. Life won't always turn out the way you want. This is just another thing you'll have to learn to deal with. But instead of letting these things get you down, push on. Accept disappointment and learn to persevere, to pursue your dreams despite pitfalls. Learn to turn negatives into positives, and you'll do much better in life.
You will also face heartbreak and abandonment by those you love. I hope you don't have to face this too much, but it happens. Again, not much you can do but to heal, and to move on with your life. Let these pains become stepping stones to better things in life, and learn to use them to make you stronger.
But Be Open to life Anyway
Yes, you'll find cruelty and suffering in your journey through life … but don't let that close you to new things. Don't retreat from life, don't hide or wall yourself off. Be open to new things, new experiences, new people.
You might get your heart broken 10 times, but find the most wonderful woman the 11th time. If you shut yourself off from love, you'll miss out on that woman, and the happiest times of your life.
You might get teased and bullied and hurt by people you meet … and then after meeting dozens of jerks, find a true friend. If you close yourself off to new people, and don't open your heart to them, you'll avoid pain … but also lose out on meeting some incredible people, who will be there during the toughest times of your life and create some of the best times of your life.
You will fail many times but if you allow that to stop you from trying, you will miss out on the amazing feeling of success once you reach new heights with your accomplishments. Failure is a stepping stone to success.
Life Isn't a Competition
You will meet many people who will try to outdo you, in school, in college, at work. They'll try to have nicer cars, bigger houses, nicer clothes, cooler gadgets. To them, life is a competition — they have to do better than their peers to be happy.
Here's a secret: Life isn't a competition. It's a journey. If you spend that journey always trying to impress others, to outdo others, you’re wasting your journey. Instead, learn to enjoy the journey. Make it a journey of Happiness, of constant learning, of continual improvement, of love.
Don't worry about having a nicer car or house or anything material, or even a better-paying job. None of that matters a whit, and none of it will make you happier. You'll acquire these things and then only want more. Instead, learn to be satisfied with having enough — and then use the time you would have wasted trying to earn money to buy those things … use that time doing things you love.
Find your passion, and pursue it doggedly. Don't settle for a job that pays the bills. Life is too short to waste on a job you hate.
Love Should Be Your Rule
If there's a single word you should live your life by, it should be this: Love. It might sound corny, I know … but trust me, there's no better rule in life.
Some would live by the rule of success. Their lives will be stressful, unhappy and shallow.
Others would live by the rule of selfishness — putting their needs above those of others. They will live lonely lives, and will also be unhappy.
Still others will live by the rule of righteousness — trying to show the right path, and admonishing anyone who doesn't live by that path. They are concerned with others, but in a negative way, and in the end will only have their own righteousness to live with, and that's a horrible companion.
Live your life by the rule of love. Love your spouse, your children, your parents, your friends, with all of your heart. Give to them what they need, and show them not cruelty nor disapproval nor coldness nor disappointment, but only love. Open your soul to them.
Love not only your loved ones, but your neighbors … your coworkers … strangers … your brothers and sisters in humanity. Offer anyone you meet a smile, a kind word, a kind gesture, a helping hand.
Love not only neighbors and strangers … but your enemy. The person who is cruelest to you, who has been unkind to you … love him. He is a tortured soul, and most in need of your love.
And most of all, love yourself. While others may criticize you, learn not to be so hard on yourself, to think that you’re ugly or dumb or unworthy of love … but to think instead that you are a wonderful human being, worthy of Happiness and love … and learn to love yourself for who you are.
Finally, know that I love you and always will. You are starting out on a weird, scary, daunting, but ultimately incredibly wonderful journey, and I will be there for you when I can. Godspeed.
Love, Your Dad