如何給別人留下好的第一印象

　　You never get a second chance to make a first impression, so how are you at making a good first impression in English?

　　Being able to make a FLUENT first impression doesn’t have to be as hard as you think. The beauty of first impressions is that we already know 3 things that are going to happen in the conversation, a greeting/hello, an introduction, and a goodbye/farewell. If you can memorize and even script these 3 situations, then you bound to make a fluent first impression every time.

　　For me, learning to speak Portuguese has been a difficult journey, and very intimidating when meeting new people. At the beginning I always worried about making a mistake during an introduction, offending someone, or making a bad first impression in general.About 4 months into my learning experience, I decided to learn and memorize every possible greeting, introduction and goodbye I could think of. Suddenly, I felt invincible and a lot more natural when meeting new people. My Portuguese didn’t sound so robotic, and surprisingly enough I was just saying the same words in the same situations over and over again. From my fluent first impressions, people were complimenting me on how natural my Portuguese was, even though I had only greeted them, introduced myself and used a few ice breaking techniques.

　　Using these techniques of having a fluent first impression, made me feel more confident and relaxed when speaking and it pushed me to work harder on improving my fluency in all areas of the language.

　　In this article you are going to learn how to make a FLUENT first impression in English based on these 3 most important aspects you’re going to be faced with every time, greetings/hellos, introductions/ ice breakers and goodbyes.

　　你永遠(yuǎn)也不會(huì)得到第二個(gè)機(jī)會(huì)來(lái)制造第一印象，所以如何能用英文流利的給對(duì)方留下良好印象呢?

　　給對(duì)方留下一個(gè)流利的第一印象并非像你想象的那么難。第一印象在對(duì)話中的魅力之處無(wú)非包含3件事情，這個(gè)已經(jīng)廣為人知。那就是問(wèn)好，介紹和告別。如果你能記下甚至像寫電影腳本一樣寫下這三個(gè)場(chǎng)景，那么你肯定每次都能給別人留下流利的印象。

　　對(duì)于我個(gè)人而言，學(xué)說(shuō)葡萄牙語(yǔ)曾經(jīng)是件痛苦艱難的旅程，每當(dāng)見到生人我就變得很膽怯。剛開始時(shí)，我老是擔(dān)心我在做自我介紹時(shí)說(shuō)錯(cuò)話，冒犯了別人或是給對(duì)方留下不好印象。經(jīng)過(guò)4個(gè)月的學(xué)習(xí)過(guò)程，我決定學(xué)習(xí)并盡可能背下來(lái)我所能想到的所有問(wèn)候，介紹和告別的方式。突然間，我感到再見到生人后自己無(wú)敵了而且放松自然多了。我的葡萄牙語(yǔ)聽上去并不那么生硬，而且令人驚奇的是我?guī)缀醪煌５卦诿總€(gè)場(chǎng)合用同樣的話來(lái)應(yīng)酬。從我給人們留下流利的第一印象可以看出，雖然我只是用了幾個(gè)簡(jiǎn)單的問(wèn)好，自我介紹和打破尷尬氣氛的技巧，人們還是恭維我，說(shuō)我的葡萄牙語(yǔ)好。

　　使用這些讓我擁有良好第一印象的技巧讓我感到講話時(shí)更自信放松，而且它促使我積極改進(jìn)語(yǔ)言各個(gè)領(lǐng)域的流利度。

　　本文中你將學(xué)會(huì)如何用英文流利地給對(duì)方留下良好印象，我將介紹3個(gè)您每次都要面對(duì)的重要部分——問(wèn)好;介紹、打破僵局;結(jié)束對(duì)話。

　　一. Greetings/ Hellos 問(wèn)好篇

　　大部分人都知道問(wèn)好的方式如下：

　　-“Hi, How are you?”

　　-“Fine thanks, and you?”

　　-“Good, thanks for asking.”

　　這個(gè)對(duì)話確實(shí)百分百正確，而且可能已經(jīng)被英語(yǔ)學(xué)習(xí)者百分百的用過(guò)了。但是，你不覺得用了這么久已經(jīng)感到厭煩了嗎?如果你想讓自己的問(wèn)候有特色些，聽起來(lái)更流利些，請(qǐng)放棄使用那些課堂上教科書中的用法，我們有其它方法。您看下面這個(gè)聽起來(lái)如何：

　　嘿，哥們兒!(朋友)最近忙啥呢?

　　嗨，老兄!也沒(méi)忙啥，就是上上班，跟好朋友逛逛街啥的。

　　不錯(cuò)嘛。

　　這聽起是不是自然多了?那么， UP TO是什么意思呢?

　　up to這個(gè)用法是do的同義詞。我們?cè)谟⑽目谡Z(yǔ)中使用它因?yàn)樗且粋€(gè)不正式的表達(dá)方法。當(dāng)我用“what have you been up to?”這種方式來(lái)問(wèn)候別人時(shí)，我實(shí)際是在問(wèn)他們最近在忙什么呢。

　　這個(gè)問(wèn)題是用現(xiàn)在完成進(jìn)行時(shí)來(lái)提問(wèn)的，所以回答時(shí)也用進(jìn)行時(shí)態(tài)的這個(gè)動(dòng)詞。例如：

　　 “Hey mate, what have you been up to?”

　　“Ah, the same old, studying, surfing, going out, having some drinks with friends.”

　　 “Have you been playing guitar?”

　　 “yeah I’ve been playing a few times a week.”

　　 “You been watching the football?”

　　 “Nah, I don’t really like watching football.”

　　你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)對(duì)于一個(gè)母語(yǔ)使用者，他們?cè)趩?wèn)候兄弟時(shí)很喜歡用現(xiàn)在完成進(jìn)行時(shí)。當(dāng)有人用這種方式問(wèn)好時(shí)，對(duì)話聽起來(lái)更順暢自然，會(huì)使我們簡(jiǎn)單迅速地羅列出最近發(fā)生的重要事項(xiàng)。

　　二. Introductions/ Ice breakers介紹/打破僵局篇

　　你要知道當(dāng)用其它語(yǔ)言介紹你自己時(shí)，人們想要知道的信息總是一樣的。作為巴西的一個(gè)外國(guó)佬，我所做過(guò)的自我介紹次數(shù)多的自己都記不清楚了。

　　人們總是要問(wèn)你同樣的問(wèn)題。

　　你叫什么名字?(你很可能要無(wú)數(shù)次地回答這個(gè)問(wèn)題，那么讓自己聽起來(lái)更英語(yǔ)范兒吧)

　　你來(lái)自哪里?(準(zhǔn)備好描述你所在城市的地理特征)

　　來(lái)這干什么?(人們總是很好奇)

　　還有一種方法可以給人留下良好印象，同時(shí)又能讓對(duì)方張口談自己或他們的城市。這種方式可以再自我介紹部分后以打破僵局的形式來(lái)完成。

　　 So, where are you from?

　　 Is your family from here/there?

　　 What did you think of the soccer last night?

　　 What do you think of this place/the beer/the music here?

　　 Don’t you just hate waiting in line/this music/the noise?

　　打破沉悶僵局的辦法很簡(jiǎn)單，那就是讓對(duì)方說(shuō)，而你只需坐在那里傾聽就可以了。當(dāng)然，你可能認(rèn)為這是個(gè)別案例，但這是一種能夠幫你在使用英文跟人打交道時(shí)提升自信的好辦法。等你適用國(guó)多次后，你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)對(duì)話開始變得輕松自然，而你很快就可以提升你流利的第一印象，進(jìn)而使英文處處流利。