如何讓空虛的生活充實起來
如何讓空虛的生活充實起來
How to Refill an Empty Life
如何讓空虛的生活充實起來
One day about fifteen years ago I suddenly came face to face with myself and realized there was something quite empty about my life.
My friends and associates perhaps didn’t see it. By the generally accepted standards, I was “successful,” I was head of a prosperous manufacturing concern and led what is usually referred to as an “active” life, both socially and in business.
大約15年前的一天,我在面對自己時,突然覺得自己的生活很空虛。
也許這是朋友和同事所無法理解的。按照公認(rèn)的標(biāo)準(zhǔn)來看,我是一位“成功者”。我領(lǐng)導(dǎo)著一個生意不錯的制造公司,是社交界及商界中的“活躍分子”。然而,對我而言,這些并沒有太大的意義。我始終都在圈內(nèi)轉(zhuǎn)來轉(zhuǎn)去。
But it didn’t seem to me to be adding up to anything. I was going around in circles. I worked hard, played hard, and pretty soon I discovered I was hitting the highballs harder than I needed. I wasn’t a candidate for Alcoholics Anonymous, but to be honest with myself I had to admit I was drinking more than was good for me. It may have been out of sheer boredom.
I began to wonder what to do. It occurred to me that I might have gotten myself too tightly wrapped up in my job, to the sacrifice of the basic but non-materialistic values of life. It struck me abruptly that I was being quite selfish, that my major interest in people was in what they meant to me, what they represented as business contacts or employees, not what I might mean to them.
我努力工作,盡情享樂,但很快就發(fā)現(xiàn)自己喝酒有些過多。雖然我并不準(zhǔn)備加入嗜酒者互誡協(xié)會,但說真的,我不得不承認(rèn)自己喝了太多的酒。也許,這是因為我的生活實在太無聊了。
于是,我開始想著去做點什么。突然,我想到或許是由于自己將過多的精力投入工作,卻付出了失去最基本精神生活價值的代價。我頓時明白:自己一向都很自私,我只對別人對我意味著什么,作為我的生意伙伴或員工會為我?guī)硎裁磧r值感興趣,而不在意我對他們而言意義何在。
I remembered that as my mother sent me to Sunday school as a boy, and encouraged me to sing in the church choir, she used to tell me that the value of what she called a good Christian background was in having something to tie to. I put in a little thought recalling the Golden Rule and some of the other first principles of Christianity. I began to get interested in YMCA work.
It happened that just at this time we were having some bitter fights with the union at our plant. Then one day it occurred to me: What really is their point of view, and why? I began to see a basis for their suspicions, their often chip-on-shoulder point of view, and I determined to do something about it.
記得孩提時,母親常告訴我,一位虔誠信徒的人生價值在于他擁有精神的寄托。當(dāng)時,她還送我去主日學(xué)校學(xué)習(xí),并鼓勵我參加教堂唱詩班。我努力在腦海中回想著《圣經(jīng)》中的金箴和基督教義中一些最重要的信條。于是,我開始對基督教青年會的工作感興趣了。
湊巧的是,那時我們與工廠工會之間發(fā)生了一些尖銳的摩擦。后來的一天,我突然想到:他們真正的觀點是什么?為什么會這樣?我開始明白他們?yōu)楹螘ξ覀儺a(chǎn)生懷疑,并常持?jǐn)硨B(tài)度,于是我決定采取相應(yīng)的行動。
We endeavored to apply—literally apply—Christian principles to our dealing with employees, to practice, for example, something of the Golden Rule.
The men’s response, once they were convinced we were sincere, was remarkable. The effort has paid for its pains, and I don’t mean in dollars. I mean in dividends of human dignity, of a man’s pride in his job and in the company, knowing that he is no longer just a cog but a live personal part of it and that it doesn’t matter whether he belongs to a certain church or whether the pigmentation of his skin is light or dark.
在處理與員工間的問題時,我們試圖將基督教的信條應(yīng)用甚至照搬到其中,比如說,將金箴中的某些忠告付諸行動。
當(dāng)人們相信我們的誠意,自然就會作出良好的回應(yīng)。這種做法痛苦但卻有所回報。我所說的回報并非金錢,而是人的尊嚴(yán),會使一個人為他的工作與公司而驕傲。他明白,自己不再是一個微不足道的小齒輪,而是公司中生動鮮活的一分子,公司不會在乎他屬于哪個教會,或是膚色深淺。
But I can speak with most authority on how this change of attitude affected me and my personal outlook on life. Perhaps, again, many of my friends did not notice the difference.
But I noticed it. That feeling of emptiness, into which I was pouring cocktails out of boredom, was filling up instead with a purpose: to live a full life with an awareness and appreciation of other people. I do not pretend for a second that I have suddenly become a paragon. My faults are still legion and I know them.
But it seems to me better to have a little religion and practice it than think piously and do nothing about it. I feel better adjusted, more mature than I ever have in my life before. I have no fear. I say this not boastfully but in all humility. The actual application of Christian principles has changed my life.
然而,我可以肯定地說,我和我的人生觀正是因這種態(tài)度而發(fā)生了轉(zhuǎn)變。也許,對于我的變化,多數(shù)朋友并沒有發(fā)現(xiàn)。
但是,我自己注意到了。曾經(jīng)用酗酒來排遣的空虛感,如今已不復(fù)存在,取而代之的是明確的目標(biāo):充實地生活,關(guān)注并尊重他人的存在。我并不假裝自己已經(jīng)成了一個典范,我明白自己還有許多缺點。
但是,在我看來,與其什么都不做地虔誠思考,不如擁有一點宗教信仰并將其付諸實踐。我感覺,相比以前,自己得到了更好的調(diào)整,也更為成熟了。我無所畏懼。我之所以這么說,并非吹噓,而是滿懷謙卑。我的生活也因?qū)⒒浇绦艞l付諸實踐而發(fā)生了改變。